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Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

leadership mindmastery Aug 04, 2021

In the journey towards becoming an highly effective individual, you may often find ourselves facing challenges that demand not just technical skills, but also effective communication and empathy.

Imagine a world where everyone truly listened to each other, sought to understand each other's perspectives, and communicated with the intention of finding common ground. This is the essence of "Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood."

It emphasises the importance of empathetic listening, open-mindedness, and that effective communication starts with genuine understanding.  All too often, we are quick to offer advice, solutions, or our own opinions without truly comprehending the other person's point of view. This leads to misunderstandings, conflicts, and missed opportunities for collaboration.

In this article, we will explore the essence of this habit and how it can transform the way you interact with others and build stronger relationships.

Empathetic Listening

Empathetic listening goes beyond hearing mere words; it involves trying to grasp the emotions, concerns, and underlying motivations behind what the other person is saying. When you listen with empathy, you create a safe space for the speaker to express themselves fully, knowing they are being heard and valued.

The Power of Perspective

Seeking to understand before seeking to be understood requires you to recognise the value of diverse perspectives. Each person's experiences, beliefs, and backgrounds shape their viewpoints. By embracing this diversity, you open yourself up to a world of learning and growth. Your willingness to understand others' perspectives not only enriches your own understanding but also fosters an environment of respect and inclusion.

Breaking Down Barriers

One of the remarkable outcomes is its ability to break down communication barriers. When you take the time to understand another person's point of view, you are more likely to find common ground and shared goals. This paves the way for effective collaboration, problem-solving, and decision-making. It helps you transcend conflicts and build bridges of understanding.

Application in Everyday Life

  1. Practice Active Listening: Put away distractions, make eye contact, and give your full attention to the speaker. Avoid interrupting or formulating responses before they finish speaking.

  2. Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage deeper conversations by asking questions that require more than a simple yes or no answer. This shows your genuine interest in understanding the other person's thoughts.

  3. Empathise: Put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to feel what they might be feeling. This helps you connect on a deeper level and build rapport.

  4. Suspend Judgment: Avoid forming judgments or assumptions prematurely. Instead, focus on gathering information and understanding the context.


In a world that often values quick responses and self-expression, the habit "Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood" serves as a powerful reminder that true communication begins with understanding. By seeking first to understand others, you create a foundation of trust, empathy, and collaboration.

This habit has the potential to transform your relationships, your workplaces, and your communities. As you embrace empathetic listening and the value of diverse perspectives, you pave the way for more effective and harmonious interactions.

Make it a habit to seek first to understand, then to be understood, and watch the positive ripple effects it brings into your life

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